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Love, Kindness and Compassion.

December 1, 2011



Since Huxleys books and the sixties the western and in some ways gloabl youth zietgiest has been to associate mystical experiences with spirituality, however as the old traditions say much as spiritual experiences can transform you, and spiritual practice can soften your heart, open your mind and purify your soul. Spirituality is actually life itself, in all its humanity. It is one thing to sit in blissful states, have your life healed and remade by love, explore higher states of awareness, or explore other worlds, but it is another to live the thing.

And of the two, the latter is the one that matters, though of course they go hand in hand.

Spirituality is not escapism into new experiences, not altered states of higher planes, but rather acceptance of our pain and woundings, our shortcomings and guilt, our stupidity and our mistakes. It is taking our broken heart into the peace and grace of the universe, and allowing it to heal. So that something new from the depths of our souls desire for peace, love and light in our living can be born through our lives and death, into eternity.

In life, there is no way out, only a way in.

For many people in the west, or around the world today, exploring spirituality as a personal path, an identity, a community, a lifestyle, we often forget this, and living for beauty, purity and peace, is often waylaid or run away from, in the relationships we have that truly matter as Jiddi Krishnamutri said;

“Only in relationship can you know yourself, not in abstraction and certainly not in isolation. The movement of behavior is the sure guide to yourself. It’s the mirror of your consciousness: this mirror will reveal its content, the images, the attachments, the fears, the loneliness, the joys and sorrow. Poverty lies in running away from this, either in its sublimations or its identities.”

It is easy to be “spiritual” when our relationships and life are easy, it is hard when it is harder, but, what is easy is what we are automatically doing unconsciously and in that there is no growth in consciousness.

It is through what is hard, where we display unconsciousness, fear, where we meet our stories and our unconsciousness that we are gifted the opportunity to truly grow.

The medicine, is the most powerful force in all of existence, kindness.

Kindness is the pinnacle of the evolution of humanity, it is the highest of intelligence and it is the aligning of our hearts and minds with the intelligence that the universe is.

When we practice spirituality for ourselves we lock ourselves into our identity, with its need for more and avoidance of change, we seek comfort, pleasure, happiness, before truth, growth and evolution. This is simply because our identity, our ego, is afraid, it is afraid of real love, of bliss, of happiness and of suffering. It is a scared child, yearning for the love it constantly seeks to deny itself by affirming its stories and its existence.

When we practice spirituality for others, we free ourselves from this trap, every thought, every fear, every egoic identification asks the question, what about me? when we change that to, what about you? we instantly unravel the entire structure with all its insanity, its need for growth and for healing. This simple and immensely powerful fact is the spiritual medicine known as compassion, the most powerful of spiritual practices of the mind and the heart, for compassion is wisdom.

Humanity are by nature an integral communal being, our natural state and our natural mind is forever asking, what about you? are you ok? and,,, I love you.

When we look around with a clear mind and clear heart, if we see suffering, or need be it human or animal, we are moved to act, to care, this movement within us is the movement of the higher intelligence that is the universe at that we experience as love. When we allow this movement we are free, when we block it we develop emotion, the resistance of fear to the intelligence known as love. The further this instinct, our basic humanity, is repressed in humans, the more problems we all have and the more individual, lost and ultimately unfulfilled, or samsaric we become.

As Albert Einstein wrote;

“A human being is a part of a whole, called by us ‘universe’, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest… a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.”

When we no longer see ourselves as the actor, as the mind and all its patterns that has convinced us-(at least often me) that we are it, we can take this innate kindness, this innate compassion and turn it to the service of the mind with all its insanity, all its crazy unconscious patterns and fears and through introducing this higher intelligence find forgiveness and evolve into a new way of life.

Sometimes, it is only through treading through the darkness, facing it and taking responsibility for it, that we can learn to deeply understand ourselves, life and our relationship to it, and from understanding comes forgiveness and love, and then automatically things change. Sometimes all it takes for healing to come, is understanding.

While love is the force of life itself, the electricity of consciousness effecting the physical world, compassion is the manifestation of this as intelligence and kindness is the manifestation of this intelligence as life.

Kindness is more powerful than a nuclear bomb, more intelligent than the greatest mind, more spiritual than the highest states, and more healing than the greatest of experiences.

Kindness is the intelligence that created the universe being allowed to act through the oceans between two souls, to bring peace and harmony within.

Kindness is the ultimate medicine, the greatest of gifts and the truest spiritual path. for while love purifys the heart, compassion frees the mind, and kindness frees the soul.

When we love we state our commitment to free ourselves from fear, from hatred and anger and to embody the bliss we were born to be, when we are compassionate we free ourselves from our ego and its games and begin on the spiritual path, and when we are kind, we allow that freedom to act through us and into the world, we defy fear and unconsciousness in real life, and live the truth our hearts call us to.

In following my mind I have experienced a lot of confusion in my life, in following my heart, some, and in following kindness, none at all. It is only when the actions of my life, come out of alignment with kindness that my heart breaks, and my mind becomes dark and impervious to the soul.

May all beings in all the worlds seek kindness. And may all beings know that at the deepest level we are one.

In the words of Mother Teresa, sharing her rendition of the peace prayer of stigmatic and mystic St Francis of Assisi.

“Make us worthy Lord to serve our fellow men throughout the world,

who live and die in poverty and hunger.

Give them through our hands, this day, their daily bread

and by our understanding love give peace and joy.

Lord, make me a channel of thy peace.

That where there is hatred I may bring love,

That where there is wrong, I may bring the spirit of forgiveness,

That where there is discord, I may bring harmony,

That where there is error I may bring truth,

That where there is doubt I may bring faith,

That where there is despair I may bring hope,

That where there are shadows I may bring light,

That where there is sadness I may bring joy.

Lord, grant that I may seek rather to comfort than to be comforted,

To understand than to be understood,

To love than to be loved.

For it is by forgetting self that one finds.

It is by forgiving that one is forgiven,

it is by dying that one awakens to eternal life.






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